S.S. - Mom of Twins
So I have a 3 1/2 and a 14 month old. I barely get a shower. I stay at home with them and my son is in preschool 3 days a week.
They are killing me. My son is super jealous of my little girl. We do everything we can to spend alone time and make him feel good. He is constantly pushing her, taking things, hitting, kicking....she is now scared of him. We have tried many approaches. And nothing is working.
I am already so beat down and tired that dealing with this is really pushing my buttons. I have yelled at my son 2 or 3 times this weekend when I know keeping my cool will be better, but I'm at my wits end. I am a chill person and I feel rage. I cannot deal. Help!!
Real Time Parenting has been the most helpful, game changing and grounding information I've been given as a parent. I have such great tools now, whereas before I had read and google searched every parenting topic and tried applying them with no change.
My son and daughter have such a great relationship now. Do they fight? Yes. But after absorbing this method I really can say I have such a great support. When my kids fight, I know how to react to help them. When my son throws tantrums I can help. My own rage and anger is under control (most of the time). Parenting seems so much clearer now than it did.
I truly believe I am doing 100 times better and I feel confident we are truly happy as a family. Is parenting difficult?? Yes everyday, but I really do feel like I am giving my kids more than I received as a child now. I feel so lucky I found Real Time Parenting.
These tools work for kids of any age. They will also work with your spouse, in your workplace, and anywhere else you choose to use them. They are relationship based tools that enhance cooperation and help you learn how not to trigger people's brains into a protective, defensive state. Once your brain is working effectively and cleanly, you can help support the brain function of those around you. And when you do that, parenting - and life - becomes a whole lot more enjoyable. All of that said, as I teach, I will mostly be giving examples of children aged two to twelve.
Almost all parenting advice out there involves some form of coercive attempt to control behavior - either through bribes, shame or punishment, under the assumption that is the only or best way for children to learn. This is what keeps so many of us trapped in such an unhappy game. I do not teach "parenting tricks" or ways to incentivize or punish your child. I teach you why and how to have the kind of relationship that will naturally result in better behavior. Anything less than that, and you will be "behavior chasing" forever. We want lasting health, not a band-aid. If you want to see how effective this kind of paradigm shift has been for other parents, click here.
Absolutely not. We parents are busy and each of us have our own needs and schedules. Please watch the course and do the daily challenges I give you at your own pace. The 30 Day Family Reset is yours for a whole year if you do the "videos only" option, and FOREVER if you do the other two options, so you can watch it again and again to reground you through each new developmental phase.
I am sorry to hear things are so tough right now. If you need to work with me right away, you are welcome to schedule a private session HERE. While the course itself cannot be sped up from the 30 days (as it really does take that long to retrain your brain and theirs) I do send the lessons weekly, so you can get a jumpstart on the first seven all at once if you like. But please remember to do the daily challenges. They are important, and they are what will set you up for success and the greatest transformation. Many parents see changes from Day One. And let me just say - I have plenty of hope for wherever you are right now. You are resilient and so are your children.
I am a certified consultant for Hand in Hand Parenting, and also the mother of two boys. I have worked with hundreds of families (see their experiences here) but am not a psychologist. Please use your discretion as to what will serve your family best.
(We kids just think they're fun, but she says they make us nicer to be around.)