Meet Abigail

I love this picture.

No really. I do.

I love it because it reminds me of how HARD that time in my life felt. For me. And for my baby.

<< Doesn't it look like he is just throwing his arm up, going "Geesh, I can't believe I got stuck with this lady!" >>


...I love this picture because it reminds me how far we have all come. 

 See, when I first had kids, I thought I was going to be great at it.


I had very clear ideas of the kind of family I wanted to help create, my husband and I were close and on the same page, we really wanted children, and we were conscious loving people who had had full lives before kids. Seriously - how hard could this be?

Well, it turns out, it wound up being pretty hard, actually. My first son had major medical issues we did not expect, and needed open heart surgery at birth. That picture above was about a month or so after we had finally been released from the hospital to go home. You can see the shock on my face.

And then my second son had different medical issues.

But really, I found the regular day to day of parenting just as beautiful and difficult as the major medical challenges we were facing. I had no idea how lonely parenting would feel. I couldn't understand why my children whom I loved so much could be so difficult. It never occurred to me that sometimes they would fight that love. That they would need something other than my love. And who knew that sometimes I wouldn't feel that love? That sometimes I would feel rage or grief or frustration or disappointment.

None of those were the things I had imagined and yet here they were, staring me in the face.

But luckily so were my toddler, and my baby.

I had to find a way to make it all work. To acknowledge what I was feeling, But somehow give them what they needed. To transform my feelings of powerlessness into the confidence I NEEDED to have the kind of family I had imagined.

I looked everywhere and tried every parenting methodology I could. A year later, I was still frustrated. The things they told me to do weren't working with my kids, which either led me to believe my kids were just super difficult or I was an awful mom who had done irreparable damage somehow and none of us would ever be happy. That was how dark it felt, the day someone casually mentioned I should check out Hand in Hand Parenting.

I did. And that was the last day I wondered if I could do this parenting thing. That was the first day I knew we would all make it through, and thrive TOGETHER.

After that, I started absorbing everything I could. From Patty Wipfler at Hand in Hand Parenting. And then from Dan Seigel. From Gordon Neufeld. And many others who also made sense to me.

And as I cobbled together all these new truths, what I learned is this:

Sometimes, love is not all you need.

You need tools that work. And a mentor to teach them to you.

With my mentors by my side, I was lucky enough to heal my own family. But I couldn't stop there. I started teaching other families - not as a job, but rather as a passion. I was just so determined that everyone should have the right to this kind of information and support. Five years after that, I went back to Hand In Hand to become an instructor because it was clear that this was not just my passion - this was my life's work. Years later, I am now a fully certified Hand in Hand consultant, and have already taught thousands of families. 

What I teach parents:

  • the science of how our brains work (kids and grown ups)
  • how even a basic understanding of this neuroscience will help you stop the powers struggles in your home
  • how to see and tap into your child's inherent goodness and ACTIVATE it
  • how to help your children find their own resilience and grit
  • how to help your child move beyond stuck fears
  • how to create a bond with your children that lasts for life
  • how to work with emotional outbursts so that you have a smarter stronger kid on the other end
  • how to understand what is really going on under that sibling rivalry, so it can transform into true friendship
  • how to set effective limits WITHOUT ANGER
  • and how to get yourself the support YOU need so you know just what to do when you are losing your cool. 
  • Oh - and yes, we'll also discuss simple things like how to get your kids to put their own shoes on, do their homework, manage chores, and even leave the house on time! :)

Because now I know it doesn't have to be so hard.

And I want YOU to know it too.

 XO, Abigail


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